New Trend: Being in a Relationship

Being in a relationship is becoming a trend. It has now become a symbol for some–a symbol of belonging. It allows people to showoff that somebody actually liked or loved him/her. It also lessens people’s list of insecurities as they start to realize that someone can actually appreciate him/her despite being flawed.

This is evident in how couples nowadays post photos of the two of them when dating, and status containing their message for their partner. Now, you can hardly pinpoint a couple that doesn’t make their relationship known to the public. You can now easily determine if one’s in a relationship or not. You can just check it on people’s Facebook or Instagram account. And if a certain couple is really private, or is more than friends but less than a couple, just read through the comments sections of their posts. Their friends will give you clues about their status.

With the prevalent pop culture that Filipinos call, “Hugots”, one can understand where this being-in-a-relationship-trend is coming from. Almost everyone can relate to “Hugots” or bitter or melancholic quotes, but if people would know you’re way too in love and happy with your relationship, then you have something people are dreaming to have. For some, although some could be denying it, nothing could be more satisfying than being cared for, accompanied wherever you go, checked out, called before bedtime, and anything in between.

But this is not to discredit the love that people in a relationship have. Most people are in a relationship, not because it gives them a trophy or because it’s a necessity, but because they love each other. It’s just that, being in a relationship is something most people want to be in.


The Imitation Game Movie Review

Maybe it’s true that people criminalize one has won a war, saved thousands of lives, contributed a revolutionary literature in scientific inquiry, and caused a city to exist ’til today, and honor those who stole millions from people, preys on the state and its resources and do injustice to the poor.

This is evident in Alan Turing’s life. A mathematician who, with the help of his colleagues and friends who has the best cryptographic minds in Britain, decrypted the German enigma machine and led the Allies to victory during World War I. Many high ranking officials in Britain’s top secret program doubted him and his machine. He worked for his machine for two years, and when the officials got impatient that the machine haven’t shown results, they forced Turing to stop the machines’ operations and tried to imprison him. His colleagues once got tired with him because they spent days producing nothing. Some also accused him of being a Soviet spy.  Attempts have been made to fire and put him down. But after all, he designed a machine that broke the German enigma machine’s codes. The enigma machine, that’s not difficult to solve, but was believed to be impossible. He “shortened the war by more than two years, saving over 14 million lives”. Indeed, the line that was repeatedly said in the movie is true, “Sometimes, it’s the people who no one imagines anything of, who do the things no one can imagine.”

However, despite making the world a better place, he was criminalized for being different. He was sentenced for indecency just because he’s homosexual. He was then made to choose either to go to prison or to undergo a hormonal therapy. He chose to go through hormonal therapy. The medication had negative effects on Turing. His hands and eyes started to twitch, and his mind began to blur. This then caused him to get depressed knowing that there’s something wrong with his existence; that no matter how he tries to contribute for the betterment of the society, regardless of how hard he works, he’s still unappreciated, just because he’s different.

A year after he was mandated by the British government to undergo a hormonal therapy, he committed suicide. He was just 41 years old that time. And in 2013, Queen Elizabeth II granted Turing posthumous royal pardon, to honor his unprecedented achievements.

The pardon gave him justice, but not what he actually deserves. Saving millions of lives is not easy. He deserved to be recognized, to be honored, and to be given the long life he deserves.

People may not have heard of his name ever since, but he’s the reason why you can surf the internet now. “Alan Turing’s work inspired generations of research into what scientists called “Turing Machines”. Today, we call them computers.”


How many congested prison cells

Dead men on the street to startle our blank minds on a good day walk

Urban poor protesters facing waves of terror from the police

Squatters sprayed with tear gas when fighting against illegal demolition

Sidewalk vendors losing their goods after being sprayed with kerosene by the MMDA
Farmers and fishermen losing their livelihood in exchange of private infrastructures

Lumads killed in their peaceful mundane day for a mining corporation’s whims

Street children running around the streets

Do we need

To make us realize that criminalizing the poor would force them to actually commit crimes and would show how influenced we are by American’s racialization

That by unceasingly portraying the poor as lumpen, uncritical and irrational in the media,  we taint their image as humans, deny them their rights, and draw them away from job and scholarship opportunities.

What kind of violence and corruption,

How many billions of cash

Can satisfy our greedy souls,

Can stimulate us to give a little genuine heart to the poor



via Daily Prompt: Sated

I want to go to Manila and work with artists, but I can’t yet. I’m fortunately studying in Cebu through a scholarship. This means that I have no choice yet, but to stay here, wait until I graduate, get a job and get a masters degree maybe in Diliman. I have no right to complain about studying in Cebu and waiting ’til I get my own job so I could pursue my dream. I’m even so fortunate to study in the University of the Philippines for free. I could have been studying in a not-so-well-known college since my parents can’t afford sending me to school. But God is so great that He doesn’t just send me to school; he sent me to a prestigious school where quality education can be acquired.

Given that favor from God, I decided not to cling on my plans after I studied in an arts school. I was stuck in thinking of pursuing arts in college, but life surprises me with events that for sure happen for reasons, and would lead me to the successful life more than I imagined. Back then, I was afraid I’m staying in Cebu for four years and I might be missing out some things since I’m gonna stop practicing my craft. But now, I want to surrender my big dream to God and live life for Jesus. I know God knows about my dream, and I know He would grant me this in His perfect time. Or if He won’t, I know He would bring me to an event that’s greater than my dream; maybe something I haven’t thought about. I know God’s thoughts are greater than mine, so I just want to trust Him.

For four years, I unconsciously had a mindset that the world revolves in Makiling only. I thought there’s something more to arts than other fields that people can’t grasp and understand. I thought mastering an art field effectively and creatively, communicating through art, and blowing the minds of the people is the zenith of development communication. I thought life is most preferably lived in the field of arts.

However, as I left Makiling for a year already, my mindset changed. In my first year in college, I met and knew the stories of people from all walks of life– mostly those who have no inclination to arts. I observed them living, and first of all, I realized that to most people, what matters the most is to at least improve their lives. They could be interested to plunge in the arts but it isn’t one of their main agenda for now. Currently, their minds are focused on ways they could earn for living. For the same reason, most PHSA alumni didn’t pursue arts as their field of profession (I interviewed and researched some of them)

Secondly, I realized arts is also a medium of communication. As a mass communication student, I learned the purpose of media, its strengths and drawbacks. It has always been boggling my mind if I’m going to pursue theater arts or mass communication. Since I studied theater arts for four years in Makiling, I was wondering if I’m still in the right track, or if I’m still doing the field I’m passionate about. Then I asked myself what I really wanted to be. I want to be an effective communicator to effect change and development. I believe in the power of communication as a medium for development. And then I thought about how Makiling taught me the purpose of art. Its aims are similar to that of mass communication, except the two functions differently in the society. Both aims to open the minds of the public, to educate them, to trigger the public to move and do something about the information they got, and afterwards, to effect change. Thus, as a communicator, arts can be incorporated in mass media, while mass media could also be used in making works of arts. Both are interconnected with each other.

So now, I can confidently say I’m sated with where I am now and what God has planned for my life.

Dear Future

I thought I’ve figured you out. In my last year in high school, I already have a life timeline. I thought of going to college, pursuing acting, being part of a theater company, breathing, living life to the full. But things didn’t go as I want it to. You are full of surprises. You have this way of leading me to the great unknown and leave me there to discover things. I didn’t apprehend that immediately.

Before, when things didn’t happen as planned, I got depressed and found the wrong ways to escape from it. I stumbled in the midst of the journey. But I think that’s the best thing about you. You surprise us, allow us to make mistakes, and teach us what we ought to learn.

No, I won’t ever figure you out. I still don’t understand what purpose these challenges I face serve. I don’t know what will happen next. But I think that’s the best thing in life–we tread on a new and uncomfortable path, we stumble, we strive, we learn, and our journey continues as a cycle.

Silent Scream

Savoring the silence, and the firm unnoticed twisting of my tongue. I believe it’s best this way, speaking only when needed, when my thoughts can’t help but go berserk. I’m convinced it’s best to keep things to yourself since nobody cares anyway. And even if they’d do, they can’t lessen your grievances, pain, frustration and bitterness in any way.

On extra-judicial killings in the PH

Some question why we should fight for the human rights of the drug addicts–since those who are killed are alleged drug addicts–when they tend to rape, snatch, or kill when they’re high. Some even say na if only we were once a victim of the crimes these drug addicts have done, we won’t join rallies against extra-judicial killings, and we’d rather hope for them to be killed.

On the other hand, the opposition says an extra-judicial killings protest isn’t a fight against drugs. They fight for human rights, freedom and protection especially now that anyone can be killed without being proven guilty. Those who are killed could only be accused of illegal drug usage.

I have one theory for this issue. Maybe PH gov’t has a secret agency that investigates the workings of drug lords and its subjects. And the relatives of those who are killed only say their loved one isn’t a drug pusher because they can’t accept what happened to their relative. THIS IS JUST A THEORY, and whatever the truth is, we’ll never know–until it’s revealed. Our president and our chief police ensured they’re against vigilantism, though.

But my stand is this. Regardless of the crime that one has committed, I don’t think it’s just to end someone’s life. Whether one uses illegal drugs or not, I believe killing that person isn’t our sole solution. And, no matter how sinful or worthless a person is, one still has the right to life, protection and freedom. If you read the list of human rights and our rights in the constitution, you wouldn’t see there that criminals are exempted from these rights. I’m not fighting for them; of course, they have to pay for all their wrongs. But who are we to kill a human being? Don’t we have other ways to penalize them? What do we do to people who are only accused, but are killed?

A friend said, “you write, ’cause you’re in pain.”

A friend said, “you write, ’cause you’re in pain.”

I have second thoughts in agreeing with this statement.

Yes, most of the time, I write when my thoughts and feelings overwhelm me. However, I don’t only write about the heartache and circumstances I’m going through. I also write about social issues, and I write journalistic articles.

Saying that people write because they are in pain, heartbroken or anything whatnot, is an overstatement. This is not always the case.

But if some people write through the pain they couldn’t take, they are at an advantage over some people who take drugs, smoke, or drink liquor at their heart’s content–gradually killing themselves while problems similarly kill them–for the lack of a better escape from their hardships.

I shouldn’t be thinking about this

Love and relationships are supposed to be so trivial for me, especially now that I’m going through gruesome academic life.
I shouldn’t be thinking about how he constantly hurts me.
I shouldn’t be thinking about the men who love the idea of ending up with me, but couldn’t maturely handle to actually end up with me.
I shouldn’t be thinking about the obstacles in my work which spur my emotions to come out.
I shouldn’t put on so much energy to people who don’t work professionally.
I shouldn’t stress myself on people who don’t follow a schedule they set, even if it’s my pet peeve.
I shouldn’t mind people who text me first, but ignore my response to their text.
My emotions and feelings can’t be more nonsense right now.
There’s a time to weep and a time to sleep.

But now isn’t the right time.

Children study in mausoleums

“When I saw them, I promised that when I start working, I’ll give 10% of my salary to the poor,” Rosemarie Dizon, the Deputy Director of the non-government organization, Action for Nurturing Children and Environment (ANCE) ensured as she prepares for her opening remarks.
Scholars of ANCE who live in Carreta, Lorega, and Chinese cemetery were awarded certificates of recognition last Saturday, April 16, 2016 for showing exemplary performance in the tutorial classes ANCE conducted.
While being awarded, the children also celebrated the birthday of the organization’s founder, Father Max Abalos.
Father Max Abalos and ANCE started conducting tutorials since 2006, after they gathered the parents of these children in the cemetery and shared Bible messages to them.
Up to the present day, ANCE tutors their scholars every Saturday morning, in the Chinese cemetery’s mausoleum and Carreta cemetery’s Sto. Rosario chapel.
Volunteers from other countries and from various universities in Cebu City such as the University of San Carlos, University of Cebu, University of Southern Philippines Foundation, University of San Jose-Recolettos and South Western University assist these children in their assignments or lessons which they find difficult to understand.
“It’s very sad that students in grade 1 to grade 2 still don’t know how to read and write,” social worker Rosemarie Dizon said.
In helping out these students who are jeered with “kalabira” (skull) in school for living in the cemetery, it has been a challenge for ANCE to gather more volunteers and to make the mausoleums more conducive to learning.
“Actually mangreklamo mani sila. Muingon nga, dili sila maminaw. So I always tell them, bata man jud na sila. What’s important is that atleast, sa pila ka minutes nga naminaw sila sa inyoha, they can learn something, (The volunteers complain and tell me the children don’t listen to them. So I always tell them that they are only kids and what’s important is that the children learn something)” Dizon said.
To help them in their cause, the organizations namely Missio, Aktionsgruppe kinder in Not., Schmitz Stiftung, DKA Austria, Deisternsingers, SVD Australia and USA financially support them.
Consequently, ANCE is able to serve the people through the day-care centers they built in mausoleums and the scholarship program they grant, aside from the tutorials they offer.
As of now, they have college scholars in the Cebu Normal University, University of San Carlos and University of Cebu, who enjoy free tuition and teach the children in the cemetery.
Qualified college scholars of ANCE are children of active members of the organization who have an average grade of not less than 82 percent and choose to take up service-oriented courses.
Dizon said that through their educational programs, the parents of their scholars’ view on education changed.
She said that before, the parents didn’t care whether their children are in school or not. But now that ANCE already have scholars who have graduated, they encourage their children to go to school.